A Fresh Take On The New Year


A lot of us look at the new year as a new beginning, but fresh starts can happen at any given moment. I’ve always viewed January 1st as just another day because I’d wake up in the same bed, with the same job I had the day before and still using the same excuse of why I didn’t hit the gym! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ The changes I make in my life are typically spontaneous.

Now, I’m not a New Year’s Grinch. I love to celebrate the holiday, and I’m still excited for 2018! Next year, I will finally be even closer to starting the Master of Public Administration program, and my shows come back from winter break! Woo Hoo! I’ve just never been eager for a year to end for some reason. My outlook is, you don’t need a new year to debut the new you! Here’s how to adopt this mindset:

Start fresh on a Monday!

Hell, start fresh on a Thursday! If you’ve fallen off the gym wagon, have been eating terribly or just feeling like you need to reorganize your life, start at that moment. Postponing change for the start of a year is just a waste of time and could lead to even more procrastination.

Leave the toxic people in your past now!

I often see posts on social media about leaving certain people in, *insert current year here*. No, leave them now! Toxic friendships and relationships need to end immediately for your well-being and the sake of personal growth.

New Year’s resolutions are for the birds!

Reflect on your personal goals as they come and plan out how you will achieve them at that moment. No new year required! Also, you won’t feel like you’ve failed your resolution if it’s something you’re continuously working on. Revisit your goals frequently, make a list of possible solutions and decide what works and what doesn’t. There’s nothing wrong with being a work in progress.

Don’t use the year to victimize yourself!

A year cannot impact you at all. A year is a calendar of days and the number of times it takes for the Earth to make one revolution of the sun. It is in no way related to your struggles. Yes, it’s possible to have a rough year but get to the root of your issues and find realistic solutions. No need to year-shame. What did 2017 ever do to you? 🙄

I’m all about looking for ways to stay motivated and if the “New Year, New Me,” strategy works for you, who am I to tell you any different? I just want to make sure we’re all seizing the day and making the most out of each moment we’re here. You may not have a tomorrow, next month or next year. Act now, Loves!

P.S. Although I’m not a “New Year, New Me,” partaker, I am still entirely against active gym goers who complain about full gyms at the top of the year. Get over yourself! Don’t hate on people trying to make a change. So what if you have to wait for a treadmill or park far away. They may or may not keep their resolution, but your rudeness is not necessary. Instead, offer encouragement to keep going!


Shop My Outfit

Jacket – Forever 21

Graphic Tee – Target

Jeans – H&M

Who Says You’re Too Old To Wear Overalls?


You may be thinking that overalls are a bit childish and too Osh-Kosh for you but I personally LOVE them! And I’m not the only one. Overalls can be seen recently rocked by Lady Gaga, Taylor Swift and Olivia Palermo. One of my favorite bloggers, Christina, from New Darlings, is no stranger to the look either.

The fact that these style icons boarded the overall train is not the reason why I adore them so much.

Five reasons why I’m a fan:

  1. They are adorable
  2. They hide your bloat when you’re in the mood to wear a crop top.
  3. They’re comfy
  4. They’re versatile! (They can be casual or dressed up with jewelry and a pair of heels.)
  5. I get a lot of compliments on them.

I wore an overall skirt to a local festival on Sunday and a random woman raved about my outfit. A few days later, while visiting DC, I wore my skinny overall pants and the front desk girls at my hotel stopped me to tell me how awesome they were. They both mentioned that they would not have thought to buy them if they’d seen them on the rack but loved them on me. Both girls are now in the market for a pair of their own.

Give overalls a chance, ladies! Just do it! They will not disappoint!



me and khi zoo
Exploring the National Zoo With My Son Mekhi
Photo Courtesy of My Husband’s Snapchat lol

 -D.O. ❤

5 Ways To Take A Mini Vacation From Your Phone


I saw this quote on Instagram and had yet another wake up call! (Two epiphanies in one week? I’m on a roll!) I need to find more activities that pull me away from my phone and into adventures.

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I’m definitely guilty of being a social media addict so I am no expert, but I thought I’d share some ideas I had on ways that we can take a vaca from our devices:

❤ Something outdoorsy like hiking or camping.

(Because nature is cool! 🍁)

❤ Water activities that require us to put our phones aside like swimming, jet skiing and kayaking. I don’t partake in these activities but they sound fun!

❤ Host a game night at home with friends and make everyone put their phones in a bowl for the duration of each game. After all, we can’t win with our faces in our phones!

❤ Play a game of Phone Stack the next time we head out to dinner with friends. Who ever touches their phone first, pays the bill! Who doesn’t want free dinner? 😉

❤ Get a group of friends together for a few rounds of sand volleyball, corn hole or putt putt. Any outdoor sport or activity that requires both hands would work 🙂

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There doesn’t have to be a strict no phone rule. Occasional breaks to snap, take pictures and do a status update is fine but I think we’ll enjoy life much more with our phones away and our focus on the experience!

Have any other ideas to add to mine? Leave them in the comments below!

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Shop my look!

Skinny High Ankle Ripped Jean (On Sale Now!)

Twisted-Hem Crop Top

Floppy Hat (Mine is sold out but I found a similar one)

*My GAP jacket was thrifted!

Retail Therapy: The Perfect Ending to a Hectic Day

This week has been kind of blah for me. I was home sick from work on Monday and Tuesday due to lady troubles *eye roll*. I was not feeling well at all. I finally went back to work on Wednesday and it was a stressful one. Our inbox was full and the phones were ringing off the hook.

Since my son was at his father’s last night, I took a detour on my way home to my happy place!

What’s that, you ask? TARGET! Duh!


They have an amazing home sale right now. I’m trying to save money so I only bought a few things for very low prices. Check out what I bought and get your Red Card ready because you’ll want to go snag some stuff before it’s all gone!

Metal Marquee Letter Small – Ampersand and “O” – Threshold™

These little cuties are $4.98 each. They were originally $14.99. What a steal! They look adorable on my end tables and the lights are BRIGHT! The batteries are not included so you’ll need to pick up some double A’s. They also each come with two replacement bulbs.

There weren’t many letters left so I was thrilled to see that they had an “O”for my new last name! I love being a newlywed and wear my new name proudly. Anytime I see one, I have to snag it, especially if it’s on sale! 🙂 If you don’t see the letter you need, keep in mind any baby showers or bridal showers you have coming up. These make perfect gifts!

“Never Grow Up Throw Pillow” – 20″x12″ – Pillowfort™


If you’ve read my post, PSA: Don’t Rush to Grow Up, you know I’m no fan of adulting. What really sold me, though, was the price. It was originally $16.99, I got it for a whopping $5.08! It was a no brainer that it had to be mine :).

I’m pretty sure this pillow is meant for a child’s room but, I thought it would look cute in my living room on my couch.



New Adventures Door Mat – 18″x30″ -HOT NOW®


I’m obsessed with arrows so when I walked by this doormat, I had to have it. I saw the red clearance tag but couldn’t quite read the price from a distance. When I bent over to get a closer look, I prayed that it was less than $9.99. (Sometimes I just refuse to pay $10 dollars or more for ANYTHING. I have very strict clearance shopping rules. They keep me from overspending.) It must have been my lucky day because it was only $6.48! In the basket it went! I put it by my front door, inside. I’m sure it’s supposed to go outside but I love it so much and don’t want it to get dirty. I know that’s what it’s for but I just can’t even do it. I love the message on it too. #YOLO!

Red Hot Chili Peppers Californication Graphic Tank – Bravado®


This wasn’t in the home section but it was a must-have! I love three things about this tank; Red Hot Chili Peppers, Californication and the state of California in general! My location on Twitter reads “Dream of Californication,” although, I live in Cleveland, Ohio. It has said that since 2009 when I first created my account. Because of all of these reasons, I broke my clearance shopping rule and dished out $10.48 for the top. I had to!

I can’t wait to wear it. I plan on dressing it up with black liquid leggings and dressing it down with a pair of cut-off shorts!



To top all of those good buys off, I came home to my ipsy bag in the mailbox! Score! This was just the icing on the cake!

The contents:

  • Crown Brush 3 Tone Bronzer
  • FORMULA X Nail Polish in Wingwoman
  • BioRepublic SkinCare Fiber Mask Set in Cucumber Breeze and Pomegranate Crush
  • Liptini Cream Lip Color in Pinktini
  • theBalm Cosmetics Meet Matt(e) Trimony Eyeshadow in Matt Kumar (matte cranberry)

I cannot wait to try all of these goodies! I already painted my toes with my new polish last night 🙂 If you don’t have ipsy, sign up here. I highly recommend!

I have to say, yesterday was a good day! *Ice Cube Voice*

Next time you have a bad day, suck it up, wait it out and do some shop therapy. Works every time ❤

-D.O. ❤